What our clients say

“I was frustrated that I didn’t have a sexual relationship with my husband, I felt I was missing out on an important part of a relationship and like a part of me had shut down. This made my partner feel like a massive let down and in turn made me feel bad about expecting more or broaching the subject. I wanted a baby and so was even more concerned about our lack of a sex life and was becoming frequently depressed and overwhelmed emotionally. This would build up and then I would get really emotional and blurt it all out and it would freak my partner out and he would shut down completely. In all other respects our relationship was really strong and we wanted to support each other.

During the therapy we didn’t always feel we were making progress week to week, but it didn’t take long looking back to see we were making big steps forward. On reflection, it was done at a good pace, it gave us a safe opportunity to discuss anything, but most importantly, it kept pushing us out of our comfort zone. This was essential for us to make progress and we could not have done this on our own. Although it was difficult and emotional at times it was also enjoyable, rewarding and a great opportunity for self-discovery. This type of therapy – PST – really helped in a way that we don’t think regular relationship counselling could have done as addressing our sexual relationship seemed to be the key to revealing other issues. It revealed to us how much our sexual relationship with each other, and ourselves, underpins so many other things.

I learnt things about myself that I didn’t expect, things that I would not have thought were connected. Knowing myself better has helped me in many areas of life such as my friendships and work – e.g. I am better able to demand things of others. Even though we thought we were good at communicating, this process massively improved our communication with each other and perhaps with our families too. We are now very good at discussing issues as soon as they become apparent rather than letting them build up and without worrying that the other won’t be able to deal with it or will be upset by it. My partner does not shut down like he used to and is proactive in discussing how he feels about things. Through this process, my partner feels that we have dealt with a huge thing that was constantly weighing him down in the past, so now he feels he has more space to be happier and generally more positive and confident. Our sex life is still a work in progress but we know it is something that we need to, and can, work on so I no longer feel hopeless. We can now have intercourse and are actively trying for a baby. I am much more positive and at ease, not worrying about the future anymore. It has been life changing.”