What our clients say
Jane and Peter's Story
“I was struggling with relationships in my life, mainly that of my marriage. This was partly because I was struggling with my identity, having recently become a mum, as well as going from being financially independent all my life to having to rely on my partner. I’d exhausted all the advice from my family and friends before seeking professional guidance. It felt like the communication and conversation had disappeared from my marriage and everything had turned into ‘baby, baby, baby’. We’d both lost ourselves.
My in-laws (who’ve been married for over 40 years!) used Relate when they hit a change in their marriage and highly recommended them.
When meeting our counsellor, she was approachable, created a safe space for us and listened to our issues, even when we were not listening to each other. She explained sometimes why things in relationships break and each week gave us tools to repair and reinstate our relationship.
We also opted for individual counselling sessions which helped me to express myself freely and get tailored advice for other issues which were affecting my marriage.
In a short period of time, my partner and I were on the same page and have been ever since. When we have arguments or disagreements we use the tools which were provided by Relate to work together instead of fighting. We’ve also learnt to accept each other’s strengths. In particular, I have learnt to relinquish control and ask for help when needed. I often hear others say ‘use your words’ which is exactly what Relate has taught me to do!”
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- Reigate 01737 245212
- Epsom 01372 722976
Alex and Charlie's Story
“I came along with my partner as we were arguing constantly, not big arguments but constant small niggles and snipes at each other which were wearing us both down and making us both unhappy. We decided on Relate as they are a longstanding service which we had both heard of and thought they would have the experience and understanding that we needed. We were both certain that we did not want to split up, but that we could not carry on just as we were.
We were able to chat openly and honestly about contentious issues in a neutral surrounding with excellent guidance and support from our counsellor. We learnt a lot about each other and also learnt how childhood experiences and relationships with important people in our lives had shaped us into the people we are now, and how some of this may affect our behaviour and thinking.
We learned and practised different exercises in how to speak and, more importantly, really listen to each other. Not all of them worked for us, but the point was to find at least one that did, and we have. Our lives together now, as a result of the counselling, are calmer, happier and I feel that I am embraced once again in a loving relationship.”
Read more success stories from our clients
Young People
“I went to Relate when I was about 13 due to feeling especially sad and invisible, like no one cared. I decided to try counselling. I went and spoke to a counsellor at Epsom Relate weekly for about 6 months…”
Read more about how Amelia benefited from Relate Mid and East Surrey.
Sex Therapy
“I was frustrated that I didn’t have a sexual relationship with my husband. I felt I was missing out on an important part of a relationship…”
Read more about how Lily benefited from Relate Mid and East Surrey.
Family Counselling
“As a family we had a dysfunctional relationship with each other that had resulted from a personal trauma which affected each of us in different ways… We decided as a family to have counselling and as one of us had had previous individual counselling with Relate, it was the basis for us to go forward…”
Read more about how the Sanders Family benefited from Relate Mid and East Surrey.