Christmas can be a really difficult time of year, especially when it comes to family dynamics. We often spend more time with each other than usual and see people who we might otherwise avoid.
This can lead to tensions, especially if conversations about differing world views, past famly conflicts or controversial current affairs come up.
Here are our tips on how to reduce drama with family and the in-laws this festive season.
Preparation is key
Head of clinical practice at Relate, Ammanda Major, explains that if you are worried about arguments coming up at Christmas it is a good idea to discuss things ahead of time and set boundaries.
Whilst it might be easier not to say anything, this can often lead to blow ups on Christmas Day which no-one wants!
Instead try to identify topics which tend to start disagreements, and agree ahead of time to avoid talking about those things.
Understand the dymanics at play
Ammanda describes how when we get together in our family dynamics, we often revert to old family roles without realising.
We fall back into our child & parent roles, and unresolved family issues might play out subconsciously.
While it’s difficult to overcome this, acknowledging this is the case and being self-aware can prevent arguments excalating before we realise it.
Consider limiting alcohol intake
Even with the best intentions, once alcohol has been consumed, things often go awol, says Ammanda. If you’re worried about family drama, you might want to consider limiting the amount of alcohol you drink at Christmas, or avoid it all together.
Remember that it is your choice whether you drink or not, even at traditionally boozy celebrations like Christmas.
Further support
If you would like to support with family or stress around the festivities you can talk to one of our trained individual, couple or family counsellors. Unsure if this is the option for you? Then chat with a counsellor via a FREE 15 min call.
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